After interviewing so many people, I’ve heard stories about how getting back together was the best decision they ever made or the worst train wreck in history that ended with someone in jail. And everything in between. I suppose it really comes down to the two people involved and the motives at the heart of [...]
Posts Tagged as ‘wisdom’
July 9, 2009
Cranky Triggers: Or signs that you might be about to fall off the relationship balance beam
I get cranky.
I have bad days.
And those who love me well know the secrets towards making sure they don’t end up spending the day with a cranky, zombie girl.
After experiencing plenty of times when I was trying to keep up with friends after after a night with too little sleep or a day with too [...]
June 8, 2009
Hooking Up v. Intimacy: Mutually Incompatible?
Can a lifestyle of “hooking up” lead to true intimacy?
This seems to be the water cooler topic for the week… lust, hook ups, intimacy, twuuuuueeee wuuuuvvvv. Our dating culture tries to support all models of “finding love” but I’m kind of wondering which ones would really lead to something satisfying. In the spirit of transparency [...]
June 5, 2009
Dating with Intent: Or why isn’t he calling me? (Part 2)
Continued from Part 1
Down to the brass tacks. How do you figure out if you and he are in the same place on the commitment meter? Communication helps.
You can be incredibly fortunate and have one of those straight-shooting, man-up kind of guys around. You know the ones… found in the endangered species section of the dating dictionary. [...]
June 4, 2009
Dating with Intent: Or why is he calling me? (Part 1)
Steve Harvey’s new book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” talks about some pretty funny stuff. I’ll admit, I enjoyed the read. Laughed where I was cued to laugh, nodded my head in agreement where I was prompted to agree and held many of my questions/scepticism at bay simply because I was enjoying [...]
June 1, 2009
The Tweet and Run: Or how to date smart in the world of social networking
Except for the under a rock dwellers, most people have embraced the rules that govern the Googleverse as far as being aware of what a name search will reveal about who you are and what you’ve done. Job seekers strive to create a professional presence through various means and business owners jockey for search placement [...]
April 29, 2009
Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship
None of us are perfect, no matter how much self-improvement reading or therapizing we do or don’t do, but there are a few simple changes you can make that will take your relationships to a new level… friendships, dating and marriage.
April 28, 2009
A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe
Safety — a huge concern for the modern dater. After all, Google just can’t substitute for a community that knew your date when exiting the womb. Its hard to check on whether or not a guy is who he says he is and we’ve all heard the stories of men with families or girlfriends in every city, the date rapist from the internet or the perv caught looking in his date’s window after dropping her at home earlier that evening. There are a ton of articles out there for the girls to read about how to be safe, but this post is really directed more towards the guys trying to understand it all.
When you are a trustworthy guy, it can be incredibly frustrating to have a new date shy away from letting you pick her up or agree to going over to your house … I mean, YOU know nothing is going to happen… but she doesn’t.
April 9, 2009
Top Three Questions
Due to the nature of this blog, I certainly get some interesting questions that often spur me to write about a topic I’d never considered or make me think about an issue from a different framework entirely. But recently, I’ve had several friends and readers ask one way or another how to make sure they are investing time in a quality person.
So, I’ve decided that my readers would be the perfect way to answer this question:
Hey Kelli, I need a list of good questions/conversation items to ask/have so I can make sure I’m getting the *right* questions answered. Tips??
It’s a good question really. So, what are the most important things that you absolutely must find out in the first month of dating before you decide whether or not your new relationship has staying power? Do you ask questions? Do you wait for actions to reveal your date? Something else? I’ve heard some of you discuss some pretty canny ways to suss out your date and I’d love for you to share.
I’ll do a follow up article after I’ve gotten the comments, emails, Facebook comments, etc and talk about what the most important issues seem to be for all of you and some good ways to go about finding out the answers you need to know. But I need your input first so let those comments fly!
April 3, 2009
I like Me!
I like myself!
Arrogant? According to some, having a positive self-worth can be mistaken as a sign of arrogance, hubris or even being offensive. But, after interviewing as many people as I have over the course of the years, I see it as a sign of wisdom and maturity.
The people who like themselves simply put up with less of the negative that can come with dating and mating. You don’t go…
