Top 10 Things Girls Will Never Tell You About Your Online Approach

Top 5 Turn Ons
1. We love it when we can tell you read our profile. Yes, it’s fine that you noticed the picture first. We do too. But we love it when you mention something in your email that points to you having obviously read what we wrote as well.
2. There is something innately sexy [...]

Everybody Lies

While catching up on some of my favorite blogs this weekend, I ran across an interesting comment string about truth and lies in dating. Simone, a NYC dating blogger, related a story about how she discovered that one of her recent dates lied about his age on his online profile. She went ahead with the [...]

Vulnerability: How and When Do You Share?

My group of friends circled around a dating issue this past week that we’ve all struggled with at one time or another… when do you let down your guard in a relationship? I realized that this may, in fact, be a largely determining factor in what kind of relationships you end up having with your [...]

The Tweet and Run: Or how to date smart in the world of social networking

Except for the under a rock dwellers, most people have embraced the rules that govern the Googleverse as far as being aware of what a name search will reveal about who you are and what you’ve done. Job seekers strive to create a professional presence through various means and business owners jockey for search placement [...]

Turning Inner Geek into Geek Chic

Unless you are super cool chic and addicted to all that is plastic and trendy, the likelihood of you having a bit of inner geek is pretty high. Come to think of it, some people would count an obsession with trends to be a bit geek as well. I guess that just means that all of us have something a little “uncool” hidden deep within or perhaps proudly sported on the surface. Even Ken and Barbie. I mean really — can we talk anatomical anomalies?

You all know I’m pretty opinionated about non-game-playing and authentic behavior when it comes to dating. And yes, at times you pay for it by losing a game-player or by revealing something to someone that may be a deal-breaker for them. But I hear a lot more stories about people falling in love with someones quirks, peccadilloes or the person behind the masks when they finally get over their fear and reveal the beautifully flawed gem within.

For those readers who have embraced the inner geek and turned it chic… bravo! You may feel free to skip reading this post and move on to another article that may seem a bit more relevant. But for the people maybe hiding something “uncool” from dates and mates or reluctant to just be fully transparent, read on…

Avoid the First Date Let Down

I’m realizing that the busier my schedule gets and the wiser I become in the ways of dating — online and otherwise — that long, drawn out bouts of emailing and calling without ever meeting can really create an interesting phenomenon. A house of cards built on a foundation of air.

Not only does your romantic stranger “know” more about you than you mother thanks to all those emails and wistful, late night calls… you don’t even know if any real potential exists with this person. That magic “C” word: chemistry. The person may not look like their photos or even remotely live up to the picture of charm, charisma and faux-love you have built up in your heart for this virtual stranger. They may not even smell right when it comes right down to it.

So what do you do when the build up just doesn’t match up?

I like Me!

I like myself!

Arrogant? According to some, having a positive self-worth can be mistaken as a sign of arrogance, hubris or even being offensive. But, after interviewing as many people as I have over the course of the years, I see it as a sign of wisdom and maturity.

The people who like themselves simply put up with less of the negative that can come with dating and mating. You don’t go…

Why Didn’t He Call?

Scene: Anyplace where two interested parties are inspired to exchange contact information.

Situation: Boy asks girl for number. Girl gives boy correct number. Boy says “I’ll call you.” Girl waits many days for boy to call. Boy never calls.

So many answers for this question… and girls ask it constantly: “Why didn’t he call?”

Heartbreakers Fear Broken Hearts

If you’re known as a heart breaker, is it because you’re afraid to have your heart broken?

After breaking up with the majority or your relationships, you’ve seen a fair range of tears and anger, sighs and recriminations and my guess is… that you fear being on the receiving end of it. After all, you’ve seen what the pain of a broken heart can bring so why put yourself in the way of that steam roller?

Using a “Schtick” to Get Someone’s Attention

Favorite “lines.” A “schtick.” Going in with a game plan… Do you use ‘em?

I’ve never really had a “schtick.” What I say when meeting a new person changes from person to person and situation to situation. What I say when flirting… well, that certainly evolves based on who, what and when. But I finally saw a “schtick” in action and couldn’t help but write about the experience…