Is it Ever Okay to Text Someone Goodbye?

I’ve heard some interesting assertions recently. One of them went something like this… “Well, I don’t want to just leave the poor guy hanging, so I tend to send him a text to let him know that it’s over and I don’t want to see him again.”
You can see my full opinion on how to [...]

Playing with Fire Makes for Nasty Burns

It started as something a bit naughty and perhaps forbidden. Oh the delight as butterflies danced in your tummy… when to see this delicious specimen of humanity again? Hard to keep your hands off each other. Definitely a challenge to not pass too much emotion right along with that sample of the wine in your [...]

Handling Hurt Feelings

This may be a shocker for those of you who know me or have read this blog for a while, but sometimes its really easy for me to get my feelings hurt, especially when I’m feeling a bit over-exposed. Its like someone decides to sit beside me and “poke” “poke” at the uncovered nerves. Hate [...]

How to Resolve Multilingual Dating: You speak text, I speak phone.

While in D.C. a few weeks back, Washington Post’s staff writer Monica Hesse approached me for some feedback about the impact of various forms of communication on today’s dater. The finished product hit the wire today.
She quotes me on page 3 talking about how those of us in our 30’s (and in my opinion early [...]

Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship

None of us are perfect, no matter how much self-improvement reading or therapizing we do or don’t do, but there are a few simple changes you can make that will take your relationships to a new level… friendships, dating and marriage.

Email, Text and Phone Call Return Etiquette

I watched “He’s Just Not That Into You” last Friday. I know, you are all surprised. But there was one part of the movie where Drew Barrymore’s character goes into an awesome spin out moment typical to a frustrated singles thought process. In a moment of complete exasperation she runs through all the possible ways you can miss each others calls, texts and messages only to be “rejected by 7 different forms of technology…”

This may seem very common sensical, but judging from the frustration I hear from my friends and readers (not to mention main stream movies), I decided to do a quick down and dirty on message return etiquette:

The Text-ual Relationship

So, where do texts fit into the fabric of our dating culture? Should they be used like flour, to make the cake? Yeast, to raise the interest? Eggs, to bind it all together? Salt, to add a little bite? Or sugar to sweeten the deal? Or, perhaps, not at all…

A Story from the Trenches…

Boy sees girl. Girl smiles at boy. Three hours later, boy asks girl for phone number. Girl recounts events of the previous evening with friends over mimosas at brunch. Boy never calls. Girl is confused why boy didn’t “follow through”…

Say it like you mean it: How to use email, phone and text

More than ANYTHING, I am hearing gripes and mutters and just plain old ISSUES around the whole do I text, email, call? Do I have to do _____ in person or can I send an email? Everyone seems to have a different standard and as my friend stated at lunch, anyone born in 1979 or later does much more via text and email than their older counterparts…