Top 10 Things Girls Will Never Tell You About Your Online Approach

Top 5 Turn Ons
1. We love it when we can tell you read our profile. Yes, it’s fine that you noticed the picture first. We do too. But we love it when you mention something in your email that points to you having obviously read what we wrote as well.
2. There is something innately sexy [...]

Long Distance Romance

Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?

I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.

Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.

So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus the added element of needing to resolve the issues even if you can’t be face to face…

Hooking Up

When mom and dad talked about getting a little action, there were baseball analogies and references to above the waist and below the waist. Things were a bit more defined as to the LEVEL of exposure on your date. But today, the ubiquitous term “hooking up” covers everything from kissing on the dance floor to [...]

Online Profiles: What Not To Do

In light of the fact that online dating sites like Match.com are reporting a record number of members, I thought a quick re-cap of what not to do on your online dating profile would be in order:
1. Be Fun! Cynical, pessimistic and skeptical only come across as attractive to like minded folks and the CIA. [...]

The “Truth” About Why Men Cheat

Cheating, cheating cheating. Why do people do it?
Gary Neuman talks about why men cheat in his book “The Truth About Cheating and What You Can Do to Prevent it.” I’ll admit that I heard about him first when I was looking around www.Oprah.com several months back but haven’t been able to get his assertions on [...]

What Makes a Bad Kiss a “Bad Kiss?”

Since so many readers jumped on the comment bandwagon on my Facebook feed about the bad kisser post, I thought a follow-up post on what constitutes a “bad kiss” would be appropriate. In my opinion, in no particular order:

Excess slobber. If a towel or spittoon are needed for clean up after a kiss… there’s not [...]

Playing with Fire Makes for Nasty Burns

It started as something a bit naughty and perhaps forbidden. Oh the delight as butterflies danced in your tummy… when to see this delicious specimen of humanity again? Hard to keep your hands off each other. Definitely a challenge to not pass too much emotion right along with that sample of the wine in your [...]

Hooking Up v. Intimacy: Mutually Incompatible?

Can a lifestyle of “hooking up” lead to true intimacy?
This seems to be the water cooler topic for the week… lust, hook ups, intimacy, twuuuuueeee wuuuuvvvv. Our dating culture tries to support all models of “finding love” but I’m kind of wondering which ones would really lead to something satisfying. In the spirit of transparency [...]

How To Not Mess It Up

Incredible! You’ve met someone you actually want to go out with again… and again. Don’t panic. Just because you messed up the last few does not mean you have to mess it up again. Take a deep breath, remember that you’re a catch that anyone would want to bring home to mom and read on…
A [...]

A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe

Safety — a huge concern for the modern dater. After all, Google just can’t substitute for a community that knew your date when exiting the womb. Its hard to check on whether or not a guy is who he says he is and we’ve all heard the stories of men with families or girlfriends in every city, the date rapist from the internet or the perv caught looking in his date’s window after dropping her at home earlier that evening. There are a ton of articles out there for the girls to read about how to be safe, but this post is really directed more towards the guys trying to understand it all.

When you are a trustworthy guy, it can be incredibly frustrating to have a new date shy away from letting you pick her up or agree to going over to your house … I mean, YOU know nothing is going to happen… but she doesn’t.