Long Distance Romance

Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?

I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.

Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.

So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus the added element of needing to resolve the issues even if you can’t be face to face…

How to be a Great Date with Extra Weight (Part 2)

Earlier this week, I talked about “fattitude” holding you back. Today’s post is all about what happens when you let go of the fattitude and are ready for the next step… going out on dates without your attitude weighing you down.
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How to Date with Extra Weight: Do you have a Fattitude?

We all know that everything from chemistry to compatibility come into the picture of defining the “whole package” for most people. Frankly, it’s easy for a dating “guru” or “expert” to suggest that you have to get it all into shape before you’ll be considered ready to date. After all, it brings them business in “fixing [...]

Is Age Really Just A Number?

Disclaimer: today’s blog is more along the lines of personal musings and not intended to smite other’s opinions on this subject. I know age is a tricky topic when it comes to dating and mating.
I’ll admit, I’m a bit sad today. I’ve been reading through a lot of dating blogs and articles online and am [...]

Hooking Up

When mom and dad talked about getting a little action, there were baseball analogies and references to above the waist and below the waist. Things were a bit more defined as to the LEVEL of exposure on your date. But today, the ubiquitous term “hooking up” covers everything from kissing on the dance floor to [...]

Why I Don’t Often Write About Actual Dates

I think there are some scary things in this life… taxes and the economy, walking down dark alleys at night alone, sky diving, dating someone who writes or speaks about dating…
We all want to leave a footprint on the world. Most of us want to be someone who other people remember fondly. Dating can take [...]

Detoxing From Bad Dating Behaviors

Have you been returning to old pastures a bit too often in the quest for your perfect person? Perhaps dating cheater after cheater or “nice but not quite” again and again? Then, you too can try the patented new detox system for worn and weary daters for only $99.99 per month. Known for its effectiveness [...]

Six Pieces of Odds and Ends Advice

More and more dating questions are being dropped in my lap by friends and readers via private email that I thought might be interesting to the public at large… so this post snapshots some recent questions and answers in a broad stroke. Granted… I don’t know your full situation (no one really does) and circumstances [...]

Are You Dating A Commitment-Phobe?

They say it’s easy to fall in love with a commitment-phobe. I have to wonder about the veracity of this statement, but I guess there is a certain allure to the person who is always *just* beyond your reach and refuses to dance by the unofficial steps of  the relationship dance. Commitment-phobes come in all [...]

Does Religion Really Matter?

When I lived in LA, I was teased a lot about my faith… good naturedly, of course. Well, good naturedly if you can laugh about being asked things like “Why is the Pope’s hat so tall” and “Why don’t Christians plan mid-week holidays instead of weekends so you can get an extra day off work?” [...]