Top 10 Things Girls Will Never Tell You About Your Online Approach

Top 5 Turn Ons
1. We love it when we can tell you read our profile. Yes, it’s fine that you noticed the picture first. We do too. But we love it when you mention something in your email that points to you having obviously read what we wrote as well.
2. There is something innately sexy [...]

Long Distance Romance

Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?

I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.

Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.

So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus the added element of needing to resolve the issues even if you can’t be face to face…

Online Profiles: What Not To Do

In light of the fact that online dating sites like Match.com are reporting a record number of members, I thought a quick re-cap of what not to do on your online dating profile would be in order:
1. Be Fun! Cynical, pessimistic and skeptical only come across as attractive to like minded folks and the CIA. [...]

It may be a heart breaking economy but what’s the upside?

According to a survey released by  ING Direct on Monday, (don’t ask me why an international bank would be asking questions about romance on a survey… but anyway…) this recession is breaking American hearts. Apparently, we are weathering the storm less gracefully than our romantically inclined counterparts in other countries.
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Turn Right Before You Pass Old Maid Street: Or Desperately Seeking Relationship GPS

I’m not sure about you, but there are times when I really wish I could buy a GPS for dating and relationships. A GPS with the voice of someone like Sean Connery or Pierce Brosnan so when it said something like, “I TOLD you to turn left to avoid that super-sized manhole” it wouldn’t seem [...]

What Makes a Bad Kiss a “Bad Kiss?”

Since so many readers jumped on the comment bandwagon on my Facebook feed about the bad kisser post, I thought a follow-up post on what constitutes a “bad kiss” would be appropriate. In my opinion, in no particular order:

Excess slobber. If a towel or spittoon are needed for clean up after a kiss… there’s not [...]

If You Want To Get Attention In A Bar… Take A Kindle.

Apparently Amazon’s Kindle is more compelling than a smile, more of an invitation than eye contact and works better for an ice breaker than a cute little puppy dog. Honestly, the level of unsolicited attention kind of reminds me of how I felt when people decided they had an open invitation to chat simply because I drove a convertible in LA. Anyway…

I arrived at my hotel LATE last night and as a result, scrambled to make it to the bar downstairs before they stopped serving. I slid into the open seat at the bar, grabbed a menu and waved down the bartender to sneak in my order 10 minutes before the kitchen closed. Then, breathing a sigh of relief (I was HUNGRY), I flipped open my Kindle.

After years of flirting with baggage overage charges on my longer trips due to my voracious reading patterns, I finally caved last week and ordered a Kindle. I didn’t think I would like it as much as I do. I also had no clue it was going to be considered an open invitation to any male in the vicinity to approach and ask me about what I’m reading and why, how I like the Kindle and can they buy me a drink.

Perhaps this doesn’t surprise some of you. After all, the dating advice books all say to take along or wear a conversation starter when entering a new public venue. Team hat, funny t-shirt, interesting necklace… whatever would give another person an entrance to start talking to you. But, you see, I’ve been reading books in public for years. I simply have no fear of going to dinner with my literary flavor of the day for a date. And can safely say that rarely has anyone used that as a reason to talk to me. Perhaps its because I read books that improvise as dumbbells when away from a gym… but whatever the reason… the Kindle does not send the same literary spinster message as a hefty tomb of historical fiction or the latest book on cultural development.

As I quickly discovered on my culinary adventure last night.

Handling Hurt Feelings

This may be a shocker for those of you who know me or have read this blog for a while, but sometimes its really easy for me to get my feelings hurt, especially when I’m feeling a bit over-exposed. Its like someone decides to sit beside me and “poke” “poke” at the uncovered nerves. Hate [...]

Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship

None of us are perfect, no matter how much self-improvement reading or therapizing we do or don’t do, but there are a few simple changes you can make that will take your relationships to a new level… friendships, dating and marriage.

Keep It Classy America

“Taking the high road,” remaining a “gentleman” or “acting like a lady,” “white trash,” “hitting below the belt,” “reality TV” …we have a lot of terms describing the journey from class to trash. The word “classy” can take on connotations ranging from old world aristocracy (tea rituals and proper dress for any occasion) and southern manners (thank you notes and dinner parties) to social climbing (Eliza Doolittle like make-overs and living way above your means) and non-genuine behavior.

However you do interpret it, having a little class goes a long ways towards attracting quality people into your life. Sometimes cultivating areas that you’ve ignored can begin to deepen and build a classy interior — making it easier and easier to respond gracefully during difficult dating situations. Just in case you’re trying to figure out where you fall on the “classy scale,” I’ve created a quick quiz. The answers are at the bottom of the post…