Detoxing From Bad Dating Behaviors

Have you been returning to old pastures a bit too often in the quest for your perfect person? Perhaps dating cheater after cheater or “nice but not quite” again and again? Then, you too can try the patented new detox system for worn and weary daters for only $99.99 per month. Known for its effectiveness [...]

Elizabeth Gilbert Talks Creativity. Kelli Talks Dating.

For the creatives and scared to be creative among us, this video may be a huge encouragement. It’s about 20 minutes long, so you’ll need a lunch break or something to watch all of it, but her message urges the you to keep showing up whether your “genius” decides to inspire you or not.
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Can You Work Through It or Should You Break Up?

We are so quick to pick apart our date or relationship… she seems a bit heavier than what you normally prefer, he isn’t as ambitious as you would like, he’s kind of messy, she’s too bossy… basically the other person just isn’t what you imagined for yourself. People become disposable commodities who either fit on our checklist of what we want or they are discarded for being less than perfect.

But what happens when someone surprises you? They don’t fit the checklist and you just can’t keep yourself from loving them anyway. When do you throw away your check list and when do you pay attention to the imperfections? How do you know if your preferences are requires or desires and does the difference matter?

I think the difference matters. Yes, we all want what we not only require but what we desire… but sometimes our desires can outstrip our requires by a long shot and that’s when we run the danger of asking more from one human being than is humanly possible.

If you keep finding yourself running the same relationship patterns of finding someone, dating for a certain length of time and then dumping them or not being able to find someone to fit your standards, perhaps take a look at your require v. desire list and see what’s going on…

Safe From Love and Hurt

How do you hide from love? Do you even admit to yourself that your business, distractions, hobbies, walls, gossip, busy-ness, activities, charities and addictions hide you from the possibility of loving and being loved?

Each thing that fills life to the point of pushing others out is a way to a slow death by attrition. Killing yourself hobby by hobby and word by word. Hiding your heart away from any possibility of being changed, vulnerable, broken, loved and redeemed. There is no safe way to find love. And yet…

Changing Heart over Mind

I’ve been wondering recently… why is it that so many of us keep repeating the same old same old, gripe about it, swear we are going to change and then stir and repeat. 
Then I started thinking… when I changed my mind only — history kept repeating itself. I have some serious will-power at times, but [...]

Respect and Tenderness

Do men want respect and women tenderness? Don’t both men and women want both and aren’t they completely interrelated?

On a personal note…

This weekend was a whirlwind of learning, learning, learning.

Through courage, I gained a new friend. Through communication, I gained new insight. Through foolishness, I gained…