More and more dating questions are being dropped in my lap by friends and readers via private email that I thought might be interesting to the public at large… so this post snapshots some recent questions and answers in a broad stroke. Granted… I don’t know your full situation (no one really does) and circumstances [...]
Posts Tagged as ‘first date’
June 17, 2009
What Do You Do With A Bad Kisser?
*Caveat* You know, it can be kind of daunting to date a girl who writes about dating. So, I’m letting the general public know that I’m absolutely not talking about anyone I’ve dated *recently* with today’s topic. *Ok, now you may proceed*
Let’s set the stage…you’re excited. You waited to kiss her until the 3rd date [...]
May 18, 2009
Is Chivalry Dead or Perhaps Just Redefined?
In the Dark Ages, a code of chivalry sprang up to determine a certain code of conduct for honorable knights. From the Song of Roland, we get a pretty good picture of what kind of behavior was acceptable and demanded from the men of the time… (skipping some of the more combat oriented points)
To protect [...]
April 28, 2009
A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe
Safety — a huge concern for the modern dater. After all, Google just can’t substitute for a community that knew your date when exiting the womb. Its hard to check on whether or not a guy is who he says he is and we’ve all heard the stories of men with families or girlfriends in every city, the date rapist from the internet or the perv caught looking in his date’s window after dropping her at home earlier that evening. There are a ton of articles out there for the girls to read about how to be safe, but this post is really directed more towards the guys trying to understand it all.
When you are a trustworthy guy, it can be incredibly frustrating to have a new date shy away from letting you pick her up or agree to going over to your house … I mean, YOU know nothing is going to happen… but she doesn’t.
April 13, 2009
How to Avoid the “Crazy Chick”
Confusing, man-eating, delicate flowers… yes, I know. Navigating the world of women when you are firmly in the Y chromosome category pose challenges that test the courage of many a man-child. Some men are lucky/smart enough to get a gal pal or two to decode the mysteries. Some men cannily do the research… things like reading good blogs on dating and mating in America or even getting a dating coach. But some poor sods continue to mope over a beer with the guys and bewail recent blunders, innocent mistakes and in short, continuing to make the same mistake again and again. Attracting the crazies.
I decided to crack the door on Pandora’s Box here and give you some tips that may or may not help you navigate away from the man-eating crazy flowers and find a woman who makes your toes curl. In a good way.
April 9, 2009
Top Three Questions
Due to the nature of this blog, I certainly get some interesting questions that often spur me to write about a topic I’d never considered or make me think about an issue from a different framework entirely. But recently, I’ve had several friends and readers ask one way or another how to make sure they are investing time in a quality person.
So, I’ve decided that my readers would be the perfect way to answer this question:
Hey Kelli, I need a list of good questions/conversation items to ask/have so I can make sure I’m getting the *right* questions answered. Tips??
It’s a good question really. So, what are the most important things that you absolutely must find out in the first month of dating before you decide whether or not your new relationship has staying power? Do you ask questions? Do you wait for actions to reveal your date? Something else? I’ve heard some of you discuss some pretty canny ways to suss out your date and I’d love for you to share.
I’ll do a follow up article after I’ve gotten the comments, emails, Facebook comments, etc and talk about what the most important issues seem to be for all of you and some good ways to go about finding out the answers you need to know. But I need your input first so let those comments fly!
March 27, 2009
Why Didn’t He Call?
Scene: Anyplace where two interested parties are inspired to exchange contact information.
Situation: Boy asks girl for number. Girl gives boy correct number. Boy says “I’ll call you.” Girl waits many days for boy to call. Boy never calls.
So many answers for this question… and girls ask it constantly: “Why didn’t he call?”
March 20, 2009
Does Hooking Up Hurt You?
I found a great article I wanted to share parts of and see if you all agree… I’m interested in knowing if the guys agree that men can engage in “hook-up sex” with little to no emotional repercussions. Do the female readers agree that its hard to disconnect emotionally after a “hook up?” Let me [...]
February 10, 2009
Should I Pay Or Should I Go Now?
If you are one of millions of Americans who have moved from the North to the South or East to West or even Austin to Dallas, you know that there are dating different customs and expectations about what to do when the check comes. Who pays? Who offers to pay but won’t be expected to? When is the tab split? What does paying the bill signify anyway? And what do you do if you handle it all wrong?
