Long Distance Romance

Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?

I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.

Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.

So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus the added element of needing to resolve the issues even if you can’t be face to face…

Everybody Lies

While catching up on some of my favorite blogs this weekend, I ran across an interesting comment string about truth and lies in dating. Simone, a NYC dating blogger, related a story about how she discovered that one of her recent dates lied about his age on his online profile. She went ahead with the [...]

Vulnerability: How and When Do You Share?

My group of friends circled around a dating issue this past week that we’ve all struggled with at one time or another… when do you let down your guard in a relationship? I realized that this may, in fact, be a largely determining factor in what kind of relationships you end up having with your [...]

How To Plan A Trip Together

Something most daters claim to find incredibly important, attitudes about travel can bring a couple closer together or smash a relationship to smithereens. I know guys who refuse to consider getting “serious” with a girl until they take a road trip together and girls who carefully watch just how well their man handles snafus on [...]

Can You Ever Date a Friend’s Ex?

The question of the day from a reader: How long are you expected to stay loyal to a friend and not date their ex?
Interesting dilemma since both guy and girl code are pretty specific on this one point… Thou shalt NOT date a friend’s ex.
Notwithstanding the incestuous dating groups, most friendships have a hard time [...]

The Last Word

Being the communicator that I am, you may be tempted to think that I’m also a fan of getting the last word. But actually… nothing could be further from the truth.
The unfortunate side effect to being the “go to” girl on the dating subject? I hear a lot of stories about how people have already [...]

Social Media Dating Etiquette

“So, I got this INSANE email from some girl claiming to be his girlfriend on Facebook today…”
Raise your hand if you or a friend have started off a story like that since entering the world of social media. (OK, you can put your hand down now… your co-workers might be wondering…)  A guy friend of [...]

Fishbowl Dating: The Affects of Social Media on Relationships

We live in a fishbowl nation.
With the advent of social media and ease of information dissemination, all it takes is a comment, status update or text to seriously torpedo another person’s life. And many times, the commenter goes on their merry way… none the wiser for the detritus left in the wake of one, seemingly [...]

Is it Ever Okay to Text Someone Goodbye?

I’ve heard some interesting assertions recently. One of them went something like this… “Well, I don’t want to just leave the poor guy hanging, so I tend to send him a text to let him know that it’s over and I don’t want to see him again.”
You can see my full opinion on how to [...]

The “Truth” About Why Men Cheat

Cheating, cheating cheating. Why do people do it?
Gary Neuman talks about why men cheat in his book “The Truth About Cheating and What You Can Do to Prevent it.” I’ll admit that I heard about him first when I was looking around www.Oprah.com several months back but haven’t been able to get his assertions on [...]