Every Time I Let Someone See The “Real” Me… They Leave.

Does this sound familiar? You start dating someone, let down your guard and then they disappear?
Yup. It happens. With frightening regularity. It even happens to the “beautiful” people. But if you’re seeing this as a personal pattern, can I suggest here that it’s not you that’s the problem? It’s the fake “you” that keeps hijacking [...]

Is Age Really Just A Number?

Disclaimer: today’s blog is more along the lines of personal musings and not intended to smite other’s opinions on this subject. I know age is a tricky topic when it comes to dating and mating.
I’ll admit, I’m a bit sad today. I’ve been reading through a lot of dating blogs and articles online and am [...]

More To Love

I’ll admit it, I catch the new reality dating shows when I can find time to sweep through my DVR in-box. These past two weeks of TV have been a bit personally disturbing for one big reason… FOX’s latest Bachelor type spin-off, “More to Love.”
For those of you who missed it (or who use their [...]

Meeting the Friends: A Survival Guide

Managing first impressions when you meet your date’s “friends” can be a challenge even for the most socially astute. I’ve never been an advocate of gamesmanship in the dating pool, but there are times and places for a bit less boister and a lot more tact. It’s a good idea to “be yourself” unless “yourself” [...]

To Friend or Not to Friend: The Ex is the Question.

I read a post yesterday that really made me think about the whole “to friend or not friend” an ex question. Roxanne shared on her blog that she’s not only friends with her exes but that they have taught her valuable lessons about herself she’s using to help her along the dating path. To be [...]

Turning Inner Geek into Geek Chic

Unless you are super cool chic and addicted to all that is plastic and trendy, the likelihood of you having a bit of inner geek is pretty high. Come to think of it, some people would count an obsession with trends to be a bit geek as well. I guess that just means that all of us have something a little “uncool” hidden deep within or perhaps proudly sported on the surface. Even Ken and Barbie. I mean really — can we talk anatomical anomalies?

You all know I’m pretty opinionated about non-game-playing and authentic behavior when it comes to dating. And yes, at times you pay for it by losing a game-player or by revealing something to someone that may be a deal-breaker for them. But I hear a lot more stories about people falling in love with someones quirks, peccadilloes or the person behind the masks when they finally get over their fear and reveal the beautifully flawed gem within.

For those readers who have embraced the inner geek and turned it chic… bravo! You may feel free to skip reading this post and move on to another article that may seem a bit more relevant. But for the people maybe hiding something “uncool” from dates and mates or reluctant to just be fully transparent, read on…

Letting Go of the Control Freak

We meet the control freaks at work and we can’t do much except to learn to work with them or look for other opportunities. We’ve likely all felt the controlling hand of a parent who can’t let go or a friend who thinks they know better than we do. Some of us are the control freaks who don’t know how or when to let go and some of us just date them.

The difference between a “control freak” and someone who is just really organized and detail oriented? Trying to control the thoughts and actions of friends/family/dates/coworkers and being unable to take a big picture view. Does it really matter that the dishwasher isn’t loaded your way and the towels are folded “wrong?” Does it matter more that he brought you the right color roses or that he brought you roses at all?

Keep It Classy America

“Taking the high road,” remaining a “gentleman” or “acting like a lady,” “white trash,” “hitting below the belt,” “reality TV” …we have a lot of terms describing the journey from class to trash. The word “classy” can take on connotations ranging from old world aristocracy (tea rituals and proper dress for any occasion) and southern manners (thank you notes and dinner parties) to social climbing (Eliza Doolittle like make-overs and living way above your means) and non-genuine behavior.

However you do interpret it, having a little class goes a long ways towards attracting quality people into your life. Sometimes cultivating areas that you’ve ignored can begin to deepen and build a classy interior — making it easier and easier to respond gracefully during difficult dating situations. Just in case you’re trying to figure out where you fall on the “classy scale,” I’ve created a quick quiz. The answers are at the bottom of the post…

I like Me!

I like myself!

Arrogant? According to some, having a positive self-worth can be mistaken as a sign of arrogance, hubris or even being offensive. But, after interviewing as many people as I have over the course of the years, I see it as a sign of wisdom and maturity.

The people who like themselves simply put up with less of the negative that can come with dating and mating. You don’t go…

Why Are You Still Single?

May we please ban the question, “Why are you still single?” I mean really, how many ways do you need to hear some version of, “I just haven’t found the right person yet.”

I know that I know that many of you are nodding your heads in violent agreement with the concept of banning this question. Tired of hearing it everywhere from weddings and showers to nights out on the town and even over to people emailing you from an online profile. So why in the world does anyone ask it? Let’s look at the people behind this kind of question: