How To Date The Newly Unemployed

With unemployment on the rise and companies cutting costs and closing doors all across the country, relationships may be undergoing new levels of stress as one or both partners lose income or positions. Just because you’re facing an experience that takes a pot shot or five at your self-esteem and pocket book, there are ways to keep the love alive through the transition…

Stop Trying To Change Me!

Change, death and taxes. The three things we can always count on. Depressing bunch, aren’t they? So, if change is always present, what’s wrong with wanting to change someone we’re dating? Aside from how incredibly annoying and patronizing it is for someone to think they know you better than you know yourself, it implies an inability to love someone for who they are when they aren’t trying to impress you…

Writers Block

I have writers block. Yup, I have started and abandoned over 6 topics in the past two days and am throwing my hands up in complete exasperation. Perhaps it was being sick and woefully unable to string coherent sentences together for 6 days, perhaps I’m having way too much fun on my last week in [...]

How To Know When Someone Is “Rebounding”

Throw your “rules of thumb” out the window… time varies for everyone in the rebound box. Depending on personal nature, circumstances of the break up and length of former relationship… you can get everywhere from 2 days to never for how long it takes someone to be “over it.” While it may SEEM like a [...]

High Maintenance/ Low Maintenance

Have you been called high maintenance lately? Here’s what he was saying to you…

Do You Play The Game Or Show Up As Yourself?

Games. After spending a few hours perusing some online dating profiles, I noticed that about 90% mention some sort of abhorrence to game playing or being considered a game player. Statements like, “I don’t play games and if you are a game player, keep moving along…” or “games are for children so if you’re into playing games take yourself back to the kiddie pool…” or “game players need not apply…” lead me to think that game playing is NOT considered a good thing in today’s dating game. And yet, do you think 90% of today’s daters really avoid game playing?

Valentine Wishes For The Ladies

Just a quick hello and Valentine wish for my female readers out there… (and guys too — you just don’t tend to be very bummed about vDay when it isn’t what you exactly envisioned and I bet some of you may be grateful for being solo *grin*)

Anyway, ladies…

Impressing Your Hotshot Girlfriend For Valentine’s Day

One of my readers asked for a post on how to handle dating (or marrying) when the woman is the more “successful” partner in the relationship. I think it might be a good one for a week that puts an incredible amount of pressure on men to come up with something memorable, unique, romantic and more impressive than his girlfriend/wife’s peer circle.

If you are one of those guys hitched up to a successful woman (or even vice-versa) and are sweating Valentine’s Day a bit this time around… here are a few things to remember to maybe take some of the pressure off…

Email, Text and Phone Call Return Etiquette

I watched “He’s Just Not That Into You” last Friday. I know, you are all surprised. But there was one part of the movie where Drew Barrymore’s character goes into an awesome spin out moment typical to a frustrated singles thought process. In a moment of complete exasperation she runs through all the possible ways you can miss each others calls, texts and messages only to be “rejected by 7 different forms of technology…”

This may seem very common sensical, but judging from the frustration I hear from my friends and readers (not to mention main stream movies), I decided to do a quick down and dirty on message return etiquette:

Should I Pay Or Should I Go Now?

If you are one of millions of Americans who have moved from the North to the South or East to West or even Austin to Dallas, you know that there are dating different customs and expectations about what to do when the check comes. Who pays? Who offers to pay but won’t be expected to? When is the tab split? What does paying the bill signify anyway? And what do you do if you handle it all wrong?